Love me a good date! 
And I went on a really good one last night. (Although there were slight issues with knowing when the camera was going off.)
And I went on a really good one last night. (Although there were slight issues with knowing when the camera was going off.)There is something so very rejuvenating about going out with your honey, isn't there? It's so nice to go out and get out of mom mode and just feel like a woman/wife. We've really been making it a priority more than ever before to go out and plan actual dates and it truly makes us feel so much closer. (I mean, it better be a priority with the 7 year itch coming up and all. ;) ) Some of you are so good about going out every week together, and while we hope to do that someday, we've just figured out the perfect system for us at this stage in our lives. In case anybody cares....2 nights a month we go out on a FUN date and each take a turn planning something we think the other one would love to do. This forces us to be less selfish and get more creative. I'm more of a dinner and movie sort of girl while Tom is more--let's go do something active. Oh, and to keep costs down we typically split a meal and try to only pay for a babysitter one of those date nights and then just trade babysitting with friends for the other one. We would rather do things cheaper and go out more often than spend more on one big date. Then on one of the weeks in between, we have our temple date night where we trade babysitting with our friends the Donohues. We do a session at the temple then go get a simple and quick dinner. The other week left in the month is our rent a movie and eat ice cream night. (Tom came up with this date system, and I think it is fabulous!)
Anybody want to share what you do? Do you go out? Do you not? (And yes, newborns completely change things!) And if you have any fun, creative ideas that you've done for dates recently, send them my way!
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Wow, I'm impressed that you guys do something every weekend and it sounds like you put a lot of thought into it.
We were doing ok with a regular date night, then this newborn stage threw us right out of that. Now what I think of to make myself feel better is that only 3 more years until we have 2 built-in babysitters.
Yes, Adrienne...the newborn thing TOTALLY throws a kink into dating plans for a while. This is a new system for us. We most definitely haven't been doing it all along. We'll keep this up until the day our own little newborn (not pregnant!) throws a kink back into these plans.
That sounds fun! Someday, right? Ha ha. I don't think we've been on a date this year yet, bedrest, hospital stay, newborns, we would love to give it a try though!
We just started trying to do this about 2 months ago. Our system is not so defined as yours, except that we do trade off weeks planning. And we have been going. And I completely agree - it does make you feel so much closer!
Oh you crack me up! Since I feel like we are identical!!! Mike and I go out every week, mostly because when we 1st started dental school we didn't AT ALL for about a year and felt the effects- we swap with another couple that's girls are the same ages as ours and they are best little friends...we usually take Friday and they take Saturday- but I countdown each week!!! But Mike always wants to go, do, and be and I just want a yummy meal and movie :) We have to change it up :)
Ha ha, I was just reading your Reese comments on the sidebar. Too cute!
Those photo booth pics are awesome! I agree that dating is a necessity. I can definitely tell when we haven't been out "just the two of us" for awhile. Recently we went to a chalk-drawing festival downtown, it was really cool - and FREE!
We get movies all the time. It's gotten to where we go to the Red Box at least once a week. It's so nice to sit together and watch a movie without any of the kids around. Good for you with the temple thing. We need to figure out a system because we never go.
We miss our date nights! We've always found people who wanted to trade babysitting with us until we moved here. Maybe our kids turned crazy without us realizing it, and nobody can handle watching them, I don't know. Or maybe nobody around here craves dates like we do, but I sure miss them!
This is a really good idea. We've been bad about it because babysitters are so expensive out here plus the whole newborn thing but there's no reason we couldn't trade with people at least once a month or so!
We are lucky to have Grandma who watches the kids for us at least once/twice a month. Then we try to do the temple thing about once a month too. We also hire a babysitter sometimes too. And whenever my husbands brother is in town... who is single he also loves spending time with the kids. We are spoiled. One of our favorite dates that we just did was go to a class at the gym together. It had been so long since we had done something like that. I loved it.
Good on you guys for making time for yourselves and your marriage. It is so important. The only thing I would add is when you have school age children if you can both swing a day or 1/2 day off during the week and go to lunch and a movie the baby sitting is free ( and the movies are much quieter).
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